ON CARETAKING
The words describe the action accurately. When we caretake someone, we are energetically taking something, since it is not a clean transaction.
ASK ABDI: CAN YOU CLARIFY THE USE OF THE WORD FORGETFULNESS IN YOUR LAST POST?
Should the word "mindlessness" be in this sentence instead of "forgetfulness"?
ASK ABDI: HAVE I LOST MY SHIT OR IS THIS THE NEXT STEP?
I have been moving out of the conscious mind to the deeper self.
ASK ABDI: HOW DO I STRENGTHEN MY WILLPOWER?
Why do I sometimes feel like I’m a captive of my own weakness?
ASK ABDI: HOW DO I HEAL MYSELF?
For the past couple of years, I have felt fear starting to creep into my life, slowly trying to take over, and I’m ready to take control and give my true spirit the reigns again.
ASK ABDI: IS IT NORMAL TO CHANGE FRIENDS SO FREQUENTLY?
I’ve changed friends a lot over the past few years, and I’m starting to think that as the only constant in these relationships - the problem is with me.
ASK ABDI: WHY DID MY SOULMATE MARRY SOMEONE ELSE?
I’d rather have him as a friend than not at all, but the idea of not having a romantic relationship with him is absolutely devastating.
ASK ABDI: HOW DO I ENGAGE WITH PEOPLE WHO DO NOT WANT TO CHANGE?
Do you have any advice for me on how to engage better with family/friends who don’t want to change, when you can feel what they are going through? They want it, but they don’t do it.
ASK ABDI: IS MY MEDITATION PRACTICE MAKING ME SICK?
I feel scared to continue my daily meditation practice although deep down I feel that I should go further.
ASK ABDI: WHY DO I TAKE ON THE SUFFERING OF OTHERS AND HOW DO I STOP?
In the past, I could manage this pain by volunteering, meditating, studying karma, and/or practicing gratitude, but none of these are working as of late
ASK ABDI: HOW BIG OF A DEAL IS MY INTERNET PORN HABIT IN THE GRAND SCHEME OF THINGS?
I know in the grand scheme of addictions, Internet porn is not that big of a deal, but I feel like cumulatively it has isolated me and made me feel awkward in developing more intimate relationships.
ASK ABDI: WHAT ARE YOUR THOUGHTS ON METAPHYSICAL SYSTEMS OF BELIEF?
Is this astrology a real thing or useful?
ASK ABDI: HOW DO I LOVE MYSELF AFTER AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP?
I’ve had so much pain and sadness in my life that it is sad to think that a woman in her mid 40s hasn’t been able to make a better go at being happy…
ASK ABDI: HOW DO I GET MY FRIENDS TO HOLD SPACE FOR ME?
I am sad and frustrated, and just need someone to validate it.
ASK ABDI: HOW DO I LET GO OF THE HURT AND ACTUAL PAIN OF A BREAKUP?
I am going through many emotions with this one. I can’t seem to completely detach, and this is where a lot of the pain is. Is this karma? Can you help me make sense of this?
ASK ABDI: WHERE DO I BEGIN TO RECONCILE WITH MY WIFE AND MYSELF?
I feel I've got so much noise in my life that it would just be easier to run and hide than face everything. I know this vicious circle will never end and follow me until I deal with it, but where do I begin?
ASK ABDI: HOW DO I DEAL WITH A MEAN COLLEAGUE?
I just wondered if you have any words of wisdom about how I might help myself remain sturdy and remember my worth in the face of someone who is throwing a lot my way?
ASK ABDI: HOW DO I UNLEASH THE FALSE?
There is a force in me - that anything I touch becomes a disaster.
ASK ABDI: HOW TO SAFELY BE THE REAL ME?
I feel like I must have jumped extremes and there is a better way to do the whole selfish/no obligation/take direct care of myself thing.
ASK ABDI: IS UNDERSTANDING ENOUGH IN FORGIVING A VIOLENT ACT?
Is it true that understanding and even partly being able to forgive overwhelming violent impact doesn’t end the story?
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