Question: A dear family member has been fighting a very aggressive cancer for several years and has just been told she has a few months to live, possibly less. I think this illness is directly related to her being the black sheep in her family. From the time she was born she never got the respect or love that her… read more →
Question: What is your take on dementia? For the past few months I have been dealing with a parent who seems to be exhibiting the signs of early dementia? I hate the labeling, especially because I come from a healing background and look at what is around the person instead of just dooming them to hell. I lost a sibling… read more →
Question: Hello from Scandinavia. Turns out I am hugely codependent. My question is about Self and healing as a thirty year old. I used to find it quite easy to maintain friendships and make new ones. In hindsight I spent many years being emotionally dependent on my best friend. This is crippling at worst and has ruled my existence, especially… read more →
Question: What words of wisdom can you share with us today in the aftermath of these elections? How do we heal this social body? And this planet? Answer: When a wound is raw and one is traumatized, the first step is self care. To step back, ground and find center. Going inside is the last thing we want to do… read more →
Question: I am writing with a question regarding ayahuasca ceremony. Each time I sit with the medicine, at some point in the night, I become like a revolving door for suffering beings. One comes in, I embody them and feel them fully, they go out, and then another comes through. There’s a lot of unfathomable horror and deep pain. There… read more →
Question: I am in a long term relationship which has not been easy. My girlfriend and I constantly fight and feel disengaged. There are many issues and include financial as well as lack of physical intimacy. We love each other very much but we really have a hard time connecting. We have broken up many times over the years but… read more →
Question: I’m 30 years old and live in Europe. My whole life I have struggled with my childhood. I am a sensitive person who can feel problems and issues of others. I felt distant from family and friends but I started to be like them in order to survive. I lost my self step by step. Every relationship ended up… read more →
Question: I feel as if I am going through a major shift in consciousness. After years of what has felt like a foggy mind, I am finally reaching the inner peace I’ve missed for so long. I have been meditating daily for a couple months now, I’ve been more mindful of my thoughts and behavior, and have felt much more… read more →
Question: What is the difference between the shadow self and the subconscious? Answer: The shadow self was a term coined by Carl Jung. He was initially a student of Freud who popularized the concept of the unconscious. The actual term unconscious itself was coined by the German philosopher Friedrich Schelling in the early 1800s. First be aware that Freud never… read more →
Question: After separating from my husband, I am now in a new relationship and much happier than before. There is so much understanding, joy and happiness between us. What unfortunately is still there, are old injuries in me, fears of not being good enough and fears of being abandoned. I do not want to burden my new love with these… read more →
Question: You have said to me that I don’t really want intimacy; that if that was really being offered, it would scare the shit out of me. I am not arguing your statement at all. Based on the men that I have brought into my life, it looks that way. And yet, my “perceived” desire is to connect to intimately… read more →
Question: I just read your last post “why would we rather stay stuck” and I have some further questions on this. The terror you spoke of is something that I am slowly unravelling in my life. I have always been challenged by anxiety, particularly social anxiety but it hasn’t been until this summer that I have realized the true extent… read more →
Question: I cannot tell you how your words and insights have been an enormous help to me in the past year and your meditation recording has been a game changer. I love how your answers/thoughts are speaking to me rather than at me like some spiritual teachers/advisers. People believe that everything is going to shit. I feel we are in… read more →
Question: I met with you last year when I was having a difficult time dealing with my sexual orientation and self-acceptance. I said “I never liked the term coming-out” and you mentioned “coming into yourself, fully, wholly” and that made so much sense to me. I got it, and use it as my mantra now. Since then, I fully accept… read more →
Question: I’d like your take on the topic of prayer. I’ve been through much pain and suffering the last several years and in this time the items of meditation and prayer have deeply changed within me. Meditation used to be a somewhat form of discipline, where I would practice it every morning and evening, a bit with the rigor as… read more →
