Ask Abdi: How do I deal with profound anxiety?
There is A LOT of changes in a short period of time in your life. It is totally normal to have these feelings of anxiety. We are never in control, it is just that this fact becomes radically obvious in times of rapid change. As you are experiencing, just sharing these feeling can have a healing effect. Take time and soothe your self. Take a walk, a bath, rub your own feet. Lovingly parent your self as you do your child. Have a conversation with your self either in writing or in contemplation about how much there is on your plate. Reach out to friends and trusted allies. Pat your self on the back for showing up for and allowing all these changes. Remind your self that anxiety is a natural response to change but it does not mean that all will turn bad. It is how we are wired to survive evolutionarily, so we do not fall asleep behind the wheel. You have come so far without disastrous results. Understand that many times we fear the worse as a way of controlling an uncontrollable situation. We hyper mobilize our psyche the same way we tighten our body when we are under stress. Another option is to learn to tolerate the unknown and trust that we have the tools to deal with life as it comes our way. You have managed to be here for all your life, make a living, have a family. Why should this not continue? One foot in front of the other, one conscious breath after another.